Most of us struggle with building long-lasting relationships. We might be baffled or confused and often end up doing or saying the wrong things. Given below are the basic rules needed to create the best first impression and lasting relationships.
Finding faults in others is something we can easily do but taking the time to understand and forgive takes effort. The best way to be liked by others is to never criticise. If someone makes a mistake, take the time to empathise and help them.
All of us want to be appreciated and recognised. Take time to look at the good points and characteristics in others. Pay compliments to people. Do not give out phoney compliments constantly. Even a simple ‘thank you’ can go a long way.
Smiling is a great way to feel positive and happy. It helps in creating a positive impression and can easily brighten your day.
People enjoy talking about themselves. So the best way to get their attention is to listen to what they have to say. Paying attention to them and listening to what they have to say will show them that you are interested and you care about them. Constantly talking about yourself will easily push people away from you. So ask insightful questions and listen to people more.
Talk more about what the other person is interested in. A great way to build relationships is by finding out people’s interests and engaging with them based on their interests. Make the conversation less about you and more about them.
Arguments will not help in any matter. Always think of ways to better deal with disagreements. Think over the words you plan on uttering. Consider both the sides of the arguments and point out the common areas both parties agree on. Even agree to and accept the points made by the other party and thank them for their opinions.
Never directly accuse someone of being wrong. Instead, phrase your opinion in such a manner that will invite people to think over or reconsider their views. Openly disagreeing will only hurt the ego and self-esteem of the other party.
Admit your mistakes and apologise sincerely even before the other person has the chance to yell at you. Being forthcoming about your mistakes and genuinely admitting to it, will provide the other party with the power to listen and forgive. This is a great way to avoid fights and disputes.
These are some of the basic rules to be kept in mind when dealing with people. Even when pointing out mistakes, do it in a positive and hopeful manner. Praise people on their merits and pay attention to them. Just placing yourself in others’ shoes is a great way to identify what to say. Only say the things that you would want to hear from someone.