Fear of public opinion can often hold you back. The need for social acceptance is so ingrained within us that most of the times we are scared or anxious to even try new things. Fear of social disapproval can drastically affect our performance and even our perception of the world around us.
When you start paying attention to what others think, you will eventually lose focus on what you want. This will seriously harm your potential. You will start playing it safe and never take any risks. You will easily surrender to other’s viewpoints. Your self-confidence will also be deeply affected.
Due to all these reasons, you need to let go of your need to fit in and learn to train and condition your mind.
Becoming more self-aware about your thoughts is the first step towards training your mind. When you become anxious or find yourself pondering over needless thoughts, control your mind and guide your thoughts towards more positive statements.
Take deep breaths and calm yourself. Then, repeat positive reaffirming statements that will boost your self-confidence. Focus these statements on your skills and abilities and do not base them on others’ opinions.
Craft a personal philosophy
Being self-aware is not limited to the mind alone. It also involves knowing yourself and understanding what drives you as a person. Your personal philosophy should contain your values, beliefs and what you regard as important. This is something that will act as a guide in your life.
Sit down and be introspective. Think about the qualities and beliefs you value in life and about your favourite quotes and come up with a phase that best describes you and your aim. Share this philosophy with a loved one and a close friend and ask for their input. Commit this new found philosophy to your memory.
Live according to your philosophy
Commit your time to following your life mantra. Having a personal philosophy will help you focus on what’s important in life. You can start at home. Take small risks and give a presentation at work. Focus on getting a promotion.
If you feel like you are being held back by others’ views, take a pause and remind yourself of your philosophy. Learn to tune out the unwanted opinions and commentaries. Focus on achieving your goals.
Constructive criticism and honest self-reflection is important for personal growth. Entrust in people who know you personally and also understand your aim in life. Listen to their advice and feedback.
Learn and grow
Personal growth is possible only when you step out of your comfort zone and try new things. Living in accordance with your new mantra will take effort but you will be pushing yourself to live a life with more meaning and purpose.